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Deb was out this afternoon visiting her friend who's seven months pregnant. Also there was another friend who had her first baby four days after Matthew was born. She was gone all afternoon.

When she got home, I asked what they'd talked about. Just making conversation and all. "Oh, libidos" says Deb, "I was telling them we'd only had sex a couple times since the birth."

I about choked.

I immediately asked her how many times the other couple with the new baby had had sex. Deb thought not very many either.

Okay, so the first thing is, I would never talk to my male friends about how many times we have sex. Just like they would never talk to me about it. And if we did, we'd lie, exaggerate, be somewhat economical with the truth. But never, never, admit we hadn't done it very often.

And that's why I asked Deb about the other couple. If we hadn't done it much, at least I needed to know that they hadn't either.

It's a man thing.

I was at a conference yesterday. It was called "running Sport" and was for *ahem* "sports leaders" from around New Zealand. And you know what? I networked like a pro.

At each break I found myself talking to a different person. I made some contacts that will be useful for the job. I actually made conversation. Maybe the key is realising everyone else is just as self-conscious as you and pretty much waiting for someone to talk to them so they don't feel left out.

Didn't talk about sex though ........